Monday, September 26, 2011

The End

 Everything must comes to an end...no matter what it is. Whether it's a beautiful moment, A memory carved in history or a life, Everything Ends.

 Death Affects us all, in all of its forms...a simple withering flower loses its beauty and is thrown away...or as I do, I put it in a book so I can keep it as long as i can, But what if we can't swap what we lost like a dead pet or keep it forever like a flower, What if we lost a human being? Someone we used to see, talk to, touch, tease, love every day? we simply can't do anything and that's what hurts..we can't simply buy a new one from a shop or keep it in a book. we can't.

 Among my never ending phobias is death. I've always been scared of death, the thought of losing someone I love. Tears won't bring them back, but they can make you feel better. You gotta know that whomever you lost is in a better place, no matter what they did, God never leaves anyone.

 As for the stages of grief, they are:

1. Denial and Isolation
  When you still can't believe that anything happened and you are expecting that person to come back anytime or s/he is just sleeping. you're denying that anything happened and everything is still the same.

2. Anger
 When you finally realize reality and taste the pain and everything hurts because you weren't ready for this loss, no one is ready. Just then you'll be raging, at maybe anything, Destroy objects, Pushing people, cursing and swearing, whatever is your way to release your anger.

3. Bargaining
 When you try to face the facts and try to take control of what's happening by wishing that you were there when the loss happened or wishing that you never have done something and be with the one you lost or anything.

4. Depression
 When you slowly be wrapped by sadness and the feeling of being incomplete, that there's something missing but it's out of reach. you try to be alone, not caring about anyone, but sometimes all you need is someone to pour your heart to or just get a hug.

5. Acceptance
 The Final stage of grief is acceptance, when you finally know that nothing can be done and this is just the circle of life. We are born, raised, live, settle in, have kids of our own, watch them grow till they can rely on themselves and live their own life and after that we simply...stop holding on to life, go to a higher place, immortality.

"Death is resented and feared because it brings an end to human joy, but it also brings an end to fear, pain and suffering." Iona Heath (Matters Of Life And Death)

 I just wanna say to anyone who lost someone really close to their heart like a mother or a father or a relative or a friend or even a pet, "You are not the first nor the last, no one can make it up to you but only you can do something about it, let it go. don't hold on to the past, it will only distract you from your future. and no matter what happens, you are not alone."

Sunday, September 25, 2011

L.O.V.E

" Love is a many splendored thing,
Love lifts us up where we belong,
All you need is love! " - Christian (Ewan McGregor in the Moulin Rouge)

 Love is a very simple word, yet, it has a very big meaning. but what is love?

 Love can be so complicated. I'm not a psychiatric but I AM a human....I think, And humans feel! and Love can vary from a person to an other. Some explain it like butterflies in their stomachs, Others describe it as a kick in the head And some say it's like a kick in the balls!! well, Love can be just the warmth inside. And love isn't just for lovers and people in relationship. Love can reach anything, Alive or dead. I can say " I Love Ice Cream and chocolate. " and I really do ._. or Love as in " I Love my mom and dad. " see what I mean?

 As For Love Between Lovebirds, Lovefishes and Wuvvy Doveys it can be living in heaven or living in hell. Depends on the couples. a relationship is built on giving and taking! you can't just be a sugar daddy or a gold digger....if you know what I mean. The Key to a successful relationship is being in the other person's shoe and understanding each other, try to make each other happy, caring, and even the small stuff counts like just listening what the other have to say.

 There's a fine line between Love and having a Crush. A Crush is a whole different world, just don't hesitate and make a move!! Rejection hurts but just give it a try, S/he might be the one.
 Love.....can be a cure, gives you a reason to wake up every morning, A reason to smile, A reason to just hang in there...no matter how hard the situation was, Love will keep you going. Whether it's love from your family, friends, Boyfriend, Girlfriend or even pet.

 I'll try to make this a habit and post a song related to the post :p
 This time, I couldn't think of a song beside this one. and thx to @_meeno who reminded me of it :D again, From my favorite movie " Moulin Rouge " I present " Elephant Love Medley"

Friday, September 23, 2011

The Green-Eyed Monster

"Green-eyed monster" That's what William Shakespeare used to refer to Jealousey, and since then the color green has been associated with jealousy and envy, from which the expressions "green with envy", are derived.

Jealousy...jealousy...jealousy...jealousy. What IS jealousy? it's an emotion, that's all I know, BUT, jealousy differs from a situation to an other! like there's the normal everyday jealousy between girls " oh look what she's wearing, omg her hair...etc," or the Rivalry between Colleagues about who's getting more grades or who's more popular. and there's the jealousy between lovers....the worst.

Jealousy in a relationship is like a crack in a mirror. can't be fixed. and once it's there, the image won't look good anymore. even in a relationship, Jealousy differs. the normal "you can't touch this" jealousy, the "doubt" jealousy and the worst one which is " blind jealousy". Blind Jealousy seriously the worst, why? cuz I have it. not really in relationships but as in overall. I hate when I see people around my friends, or strangers playing with my close baby relatives, ya I know they are just cute cuddly kids but I just get in defensive mode. call me selfish or overpossessive but it's just the way I am.

I really don't know what the hell I'm doing in this post but I just felt like sharing. Jealousy kills. believe me. just the thought that the someone you love (Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Whoever) is with someone else...that kills.
and it will drive you mad. even if you looked cool and nothing's wrong with you....you're burning inside. I don't have a solution for it but if you do then please share.

this song (El Tango De Roxanne) from my Favorite movie (Moulin Rouge) , describes what I mean. " Jealousy....will drive you.....MAD" it's my personal favorite scene.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Smile

 In my last post I said that you should smile, so I mentioned in this post WHY you should smile :D

  A smile is the shortest distance between peoples'  hearts. It's understood by everyone despite  their culture, race, religion, sexual orientations or age! It doesn't cost a thing, whether you are rich or poor a royal or a commoner, a smile won't cost a thing.

 Smiling raises your self confidence and esteem, I tried it myself when I had to give speeches and presentations, don't fake a smile just do it! if you really love what you are doing then it won't be fake, it'll make you look more friendly and charismatic.

 Yes there are some dark days and times but sometimes we can't do anything about it...so just smile and know that there are better days coming. Don't let a simple thing ruin your whole day. Smile and carry on. even if you lost someone dear, know that they are in a better place, resting. we can't bring back the dead so don't hold on too much to the past, instead, face the future and smile. we all die in the end.

  • "Peace begins with a smile."  ~Mother Teresa
  • "Smile, it lets your teeth breathe."  ~Author Unknown
  • "A smile is a curve that sets everything straight."  ~Phyllis Diller
  • "Smile, it enhances your face value." Truvy (Dolly Parton) in 'Steel Magnolias'
  here are some facts I found over the internet in this site some of them are....amusing.


 Everyday, I listen to this song in the morning smile and hope for the best.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

A Cry For Help


 You know that feeling when you think that the whole world is against you? That you are completely alone and no one understands you? And If you said anything people will say you're a brat and a rebel but if you didn't they'll say you're weak with no character? Yea, I HATE IT.

  I've been having these mood swings a lot lately, I just feel down, hopeless, desperate and just...dead. I feel that no one will get me and no one will ever understand what I mean. A Million things on my mind and I feel the pressure that holds me down but no one believes in me, Not even those who are close to my heart.

 But you know what? Screw everyone. YOU are the one who matters, It's YOUR life so live it as you want. Don't let people live it for you, Not even your parents. Ya call me a teenager but I want to live, Breathe! Give me my own privacy, Respect me like I respect you! Listen to what I have to say. Let me live. I'm not perfect, No one is, So I have to make mistakes to learn who I am. I want to have my own experiences to share. So what if I screwed up? It's not the end of the world! Don't make a big deal out of nothing, EVERYTHING can be solved if you just thought about it. School Problems? Organize your time and pick your friends wisely. Family Trouble? IGNORE! Specially your parents if they are giving you a hard time, You'll grow up and understand it later, they love you so much that they are killing you, Just reply with yes, no and thank you. Don't raise your voice, keep calm and prove them wrong. Have a heart-to-heart talk. And learn to let it go, Just let it go. Holding on won't solve anything, Forget your problems and worries and just let it go. Consider that each new day you're blessed to live as a new page in your book of life, You can write whatever you want in it. Just make sure that it's something memorable and it will make you proud when you look at it. and don't forget to smile! it's your only weapon in this life :D!

Baby Steps

  "Journey of a thousand miles begin with a single  step" - Confucius

   Everything starts with something!

A tree starts with a seed,
A building starts with a brick,
An ocean starts with a drop of water,
And a blog starts with a post.

So here I am posting my first post and taking
my own baby steps into the world of blogging!