Death Affects us all, in all of its forms...a simple withering flower loses its beauty and is thrown away...or as I do, I put it in a book so I can keep it as long as i can, But what if we can't swap what we lost like a dead pet or keep it forever like a flower, What if we lost a human being? Someone we used to see, talk to, touch, tease, love every day? we simply can't do anything and that's what hurts..we can't simply buy a new one from a shop or keep it in a book. we can't.
Among my never ending phobias is death. I've always been scared of death, the thought of losing someone I love. Tears won't bring them back, but they can make you feel better. You gotta know that whomever you lost is in a better place, no matter what they did, God never leaves anyone.
As for the stages of grief, they are:
1. Denial and Isolation
When you still can't believe that anything happened and you are expecting that person to come back anytime or s/he is just sleeping. you're denying that anything happened and everything is still the same.
2. Anger
When you finally realize reality and taste the pain and everything hurts because you weren't ready for this loss, no one is ready. Just then you'll be raging, at maybe anything, Destroy objects, Pushing people, cursing and swearing, whatever is your way to release your anger.
3. Bargaining
When you try to face the facts and try to take control of what's happening by wishing that you were there when the loss happened or wishing that you never have done something and be with the one you lost or anything.
4. Depression
When you slowly be wrapped by sadness and the feeling of being incomplete, that there's something missing but it's out of reach. you try to be alone, not caring about anyone, but sometimes all you need is someone to pour your heart to or just get a hug.
5. Acceptance
The Final stage of grief is acceptance, when you finally know that nothing can be done and this is just the circle of life. We are born, raised, live, settle in, have kids of our own, watch them grow till they can rely on themselves and live their own life and after that we simply...stop holding on to life, go to a higher place, immortality.
"Death is resented and feared because it brings an end to human joy, but it also brings an end to fear, pain and suffering." Iona Heath (Matters Of Life And Death)
I just wanna say to anyone who lost someone really close to their heart like a mother or a father or a relative or a friend or even a pet, "You are not the first nor the last, no one can make it up to you but only you can do something about it, let it go. don't hold on to the past, it will only distract you from your future. and no matter what happens, you are not alone."
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